I rarely, if ever speak or write about my family. But I hope this makes a positive impact in your life.
My Dad was Archie Bunker on STEROIDS. He literally had a problem with EVERYONE. And because he hated his job; he resented life...and he took great pains to make others feel SMALL. He deflected his pain by belittling my mother, my sisters, and myself. Anyone in close proximity was in dire danger of becoming his victim. As he aged, it only got worse; he would act out in public RUDE at waiters/waitresses. By the time I was 17, I had enough of his BULLSHIT...moved out as soon as I could...and never looked back. Over the years, I tried on many occasions to make the best of our relationship. But he lacked the emotional intelligence, patience, or desire to change; and I stopped hoping to make DAD proud. I made my own way...luckily, I found a nonprofit for men (MDI) and positive role models/mentors that helped me discover and refined my purpose (and values); and NEVER looked back. Six months ago, DAD passed away....and I felt nothing.
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My Sister is a Saint
She is taking over my father's affairs and estate. Dad had brand new Armani Suits, Bruno Magli Shoes, and top end shirts with tags still on in his closet; and my sister wanted me to have them.
And I will wear the clothes proudly...as I embrace the community I am building thru intentional, transparent, and caring relationships. Passion, Purpose, and Play.
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How I am Redefining My Dad's Legacy?
By being 180° the opposite of what he was. I love celebrating kids, men and women; who kickass...with the sweetest life experiences. Helping professionals land sweet jobs they love, helping companies find talented, sweet, and kickass employees; that bring value everyday. And generating proceeds from staffing to fund the girl causes I love, the celebrations; and The Rosé Social Club (Celebrating Women). As I wear his clothes, I breathe new life and purpose to his legacy; and show up as a man who stands for something greater than himself.
I love being selfless and appreciated. I experience life on my terms, and lookout for opportunities to personally impact relationships that matter.
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Nothing Ever Just Happens By Chance...You Need to Pay Attention to The Connections
Blog was inspired by The Sweetest Stylist Jenn K 'Have a Stylegasm,' who helps redefine women's fashion freedom thru fulfilling/transformative experiences, including; Closet Remake ('letting go of clothes that hold you back').
...I recently met Jenn K and we're collaborating to create Fashion Loves Freedom Paris to LA... (Launching Spring 2025).
"Co-leading Fashion Loves Freedom...'I have to look the part'...Thanks DAD! And instead of letting go of clothes...I am adding to my closet...'Dad, I will treasure your clothes by honoring your presence and being The MAN...You can be in spirit!"
Carlos Sweet Founder
Recruiting for Good, Fashion Loves Freedom, The Rosé Social Club